The word itself is complicated and yet simple.
A mothers love.
A fathers love.
The love of a spouse or significant other.
The love for your children.
Who do you love and why?
It’s usually pretty easy to answer that question.
You know why you love your significant other and why you love your kids.
You can quickly recall a story to express why you love your friends.
After all, you chose them.
What about you?
Do you love yourself?
What do you love about yourself?
What about you makes you special?
Do you have the ability to answer those questions without hesitation or do you have to think about it? Do you find yourself answering them and then doubting your own answers?
Self Love is the most complicated love.
We doubt our answers because we know ourselves better than anyone else. We figure that we deserve less and accept mediocre self-love.
Your deepest and darkest secrets come to mind and you believe that those things or situations make you less worthy of your own love!
I say to hell with that!!
So you had a one night stand or two, or three or four. Who cares!
So you cheated on your ex….again I say who cares.
You lied on your resume when you first started in your field. A little tweak here, another embellishment there, who hasn’t!
So your secrets go darker than that?
You’ve had an abortion, or two or three or four. Who the fuck cares.
Disclaimer; don’t use abortion as a form of birth control. These are my opinions, don’t hate me if you don’t agree.
You’ve had a threesome, with 2 men or another woman. Good for you! Fuck society and all their judgy standards!
You outed a family member, yikes but I’m sure they forgave you and you were truly sorry. And if you did that shit on purpose then fuck it, it’s done. You can’t change whats done, move forward.
You’re involved in an extramarital affair, now, currently, at this moment. Well, girl, you got some shit to figure out. So go ahead, figure it out.
All these situations should not impact your self-love.
YOU ARE NOT A HORRIBLE PERSON.
YOU ARE REAL.
YOU ARE A REAL FUCKIN WOMaN WITH REAL LIFE PROBLEMS AND SITUATIONS.
You’ll figure them out, you’ll get past them and forgive yourself if you haven’t already.
Don’t let that shit weigh you down. The past is the past.
Self Love is the most complicated love, it’s also the most rewarding.
Love. La la la la Love. YOURSELF.