A soul mate by definition is 1: a person who is perfectly suited to another in temperament. 2: a person who strongly resembles another in attitudes or beliefs; ideological soul mates.
Carrie Bradshaw once said,
“Maybe our girlfriends are our soul mates and guys are just people to have fun with.”
The woman is a genius.
How is it that a man would find himself perfectly suited to a woman in temperament?
Maybe a man and a woman could have similar attitudes and beliefs but I do not believe we are suited in temperament.
Men and women are different, built differently, we vibe off each other in that sentiment.
With that being said, your soul mate is not a man silly.
Your soul mate has been by your side as the men have come and gone from your life.
Your soul mate has never judged you, instead has told you exactly what you did not want to hear and then supported you when you went ahead and did what you wanted to anyway.
Never, not once has she abandoned you, maybe given you some space because let’s be honest, you needed it.
I am a lucky woman, you see I do not have a soul mate, I have soul mates.♥
Women who have made my journey through life a little less rocky and a lot more enjoyable.
My soul mates have hung tight through bouts of selfishness and immaturity and I’d like to say that I have done the same.
Every tribe of women has within it specific rolls that each soul mate fills, these rolls intertwine with one another creating this tribe that holds strong through all the dramatic bullshit life likes to throw your way.
We have the mature and responsible one, the one who maintained a job while going to school and made sure we all got home in one piece.
Even on nights, we didn’t want to.
Which one of your soul mates is the loud and overly dramatic one, maybe a couple of you have this role locked down?
Then you’ve got the ambitious one of the bunch, the one who will one day be famous, if not for her talents but for murder or fraud.. me, you or her?
And then you’ve got the floater.
You love her dearly and trust her with your life and her having her own social circle outside of your tribe is totally acceptable.
The reality is anyone of these descriptions could fit you or anyone of your soul mates, my point being you are all suited to each other in temperament.
Soul mates by the utter definition of the word.
No relationship is easy to maintain, especially not one that involves several women.
We say mean things about each other, to each other.
We voice our opinions often and without fear because we are suited to do so.
Now you may be thinking that you could pinpoint one woman to each definition but sit and think about it, you are all one in the same. You are all responsible when necessary, you have all been crazy and dramatic, you’re all ambitious in life and you have created friendships and relationships outside of your safe zone.
Women are unique by nature, predictable at times and at other times we have moments in life that even throw our soul mates for a loop.
On many occasions, we have thrown each other for complete and total loops. Doing things that we ourselves had not anticipated but life gave us choices and we made decisions.
My soul mates are many miles from me but when I see them we pick up right where we left off. Life and time have kept moving as it always will, bringing with it, boyfriends, husbands, babies, divorces, and relocations.
Hold onto these women, love and appreciate them because like all relationships, they took work, time and effort.
What is your longest running friendship?
Can you see yourself without these women?